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When Can We Stop Being Creeps?

We’re a culture of Creeps.

It’s been that way for a long, long time, I know. The pornification of our culture is so evident though, way too mainstream. I get it, yet a tiny sliver of the decent part of me whispers, “No, I really don’t.” “Sex sells” is the common mantra of those quick to excuse it to justify their utterly deviant behavior, coupled with, “Don’t be such a prude.”

Fine, be a Creep. Join the throng.


What troubles me isn’t sex whatsoever. Consenting adults to consenting adults have a choice in the matter. Also, I don’t mind sex in dramas if it’s relevant to the plot and character motivations. Adult reading, late night television and rated R movies are strictly for those sorts of things (let’s leave out certain catalogues that “surprise” their browsers though). Perhaps as a result, I find myself growing ever more desensitized to the blatantly sexual ads in magazines, on billboards (in my state, sex sells up high on billboards announcing sex shops and Café Risques, followed immediately by ‘My heartbeat begins 18 days after conception’ notices), on television, and so on. Shock jocks don’t shock much anymore. I’ve mentioned once that public ogling makes me feel gross, but I walk away (and might write about it). I blame my brief stint in Tokyo for that, a place where ass-groping-on-the-train is as common as conveyor belt sushi.

My problem this week though has to do with mixed messages about sexuality we’re now sending to our young and the constant countering of it (not to mention any and all asshole Creeps involved).

At my department meeting just last week, several colleagues mentioned an issue involving student clothing on campus and what were we permitted to do about it. Do we confer with the female student whose provocative dress, best suited for a nightclub, barely skims her thighs and is cut so low in the front we can see just below her pierced belly button…or with the male student whose pants are barely clinging on to his hips for dear life? Or are we expected to ignore it?

Public college, public choices.

And what of the parents who either turn a blind eye to it or even encourage it from their children? What of their peers who encourage it also? Do they not care about the free range Creeps roaming around…or are they, in fact, Creeps as well?

Exhibit A: Donald Trump, narcissistic Creep running for President.




Still wonder why he has so many supporters? Again, we’re a culture of Creeps.

Exhibit B: Jared Fogle, paedo Creep who thrives on Subway sandwiches with a liberal dash of child porn on the side.

Former Subway pitchman Jared Fogle leaves the Federal Courthouse in Indianapolis, Wednesday, Aug. 19, 2015 following a hearing on child-pornography charges. Fogle agreed to plead guilty to allegations that he paid for sex acts with minors and received child pornography in a case that destroyed his career at the sandwich-shop chain and could send him to prison for more than a decade. (AP Photo/Michael Conroy)

Bonus bit of creep involved with Fogle: Apparently, the executive director of his supposed charity to fight childhood obesity supplied the child pornography especially for Fogle.


Exhibit C: Culty Creep Josh Duggar, wannabe adulterer and incestuous child molester.



Undoubtedly, his upbringing left a lot to be desired. His  family’s strict religious leanings are so disgustingly sexist, blatantly oppressive and awful, there’s little wonder the residual effects created homegrown Creeps.

Finally…There’s a special case, one that I’ve been hesitant to write about since it’s personal and purely anecdotal…

However, it’s been on my mind since yesterday. I must tread lightly here because it involves a friend. Said friend is a devoted, lovely mother with beautiful — I mean, beautiful children. She has a stunning teenaged daughter in high school who is now modeling. I’d like to say it’s simple teen catalogue modeling (no, not for THAT catalogue), but the photo shoot pics my friend shared on Facebook are hardly “regular” catalogue pics. I get the impression that the portfolio photographer is something akin to Donald Trump, definitely a part of our Creep Culture. Some of the pics were so shockingly hypersexualized that I felt hollow, so hollow inside after seeing them. The number of “likes” and encouraging commentary was every bit as disturbing as the fact my friend posted those very pictures for all in her circle to see. A part of me wonders if the encouragement and “likes” aren’t necessarily for the pictures but the news that the daughter has a contract for a modeling job coming. I just hope any contract she receives doesn’t involve barely-there, wet bikinis and provocative poses.

I wonder about my friend and wish someone, a family member of hers or a friend who’s quite close to her, would point out the obvious:

Just. No.


Again, the girl’s in high school.

That, and our Creep Culture is not only…well, creepy…it’s damned dangerous..




7 thoughts on “When Can We Stop Being Creeps?

  1. I think a general chunk of the population has become so blasted by this sort of thing that if not creeps themselves they are now creeps by default. I think people forget sometimes that boundaries are an essential thing to society. Sadly, I see even fewer boundaries in the near-future.

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    • There’s no doubt that people are slowly becoming creeps “by default,” and that saddens me to no end. Still, humans ought to be intelligent enough to understand and adhere to what society has deemed as absolutely unacceptable (key phrase: ‘ought to’ — It doesn’t mean they are.)

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  2. Thank goodness someone younger than me is prepared to write this. I agree completely, but at my age I’d be branded a reactionary old prude if I said it, whereas in fact age and experience have made my pretty shock-proof. So I’m not shocked by the pornification of society (great phrase!) but I do find it… cheap I suppose. Sad. And yes, VERY dangerous.
    For a start, very few people have body shapes that can carry it off. Most just look pathetically, wannabe tacky.
    Secondly, if you dress to accentuate your sexuality, it’s completely hypocritical to be up in arms when you provoke a sexual reaction. (imo the feminist line on this shows a staggerting ignorance of human nature.)
    And thirdly, there are sickos in the world.
    It’s a sad indictment of society that if something sells, we’ll use it.

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    • Indeed. I don’t think it’s necessarily “prudish” to have a semblance of decency either. We understand sex. We understand it “sells,” but when the image becomes younger and younger (looking at you, Abercrombie and Urban Outfitters!), we’re sending seriously mixed messages. And that particular brand of feminism certainly doesn’t help at all.


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